How high is TOO high?

I bet you’ve been wondering where I’ve been this past week. & If you haven’t.. I’ll tell you anyway because why else would you be here?

I’ve been LOVING & LIVING. I’ve also been closing complicated chapters in my life. I’ll be completely transparent like promised.… My 8 month fling is no longer a thing. That one took some thinking. Things didn’t work out for so many reasons, the biggest one being distance. Being away from Chicago while loving someone that lives there was more complicated than planned. So much space, time, & opportunity to create new connections. That’s exactly what we both did.

One thing I noticed within all of this is…

why do we lower our standards to settle for what we know we wouldn't? We’ve normalized settling for comfort. At 26 years old, for me it’s no longer optional. I don’t have the time to sit & wait for someone else to make shit happen. I’m also tired of being the one to make shit happen as well. My last relationship was where I drew that line between settling & waiting for what I know I deserve.

”What’s mean’t for me is already mine.”

I believe in this so much. Surprise dates, unexpected flowers, & baecations is NOT asking for too much..

it keeps a woman guessing… “I wonder what’s next?”

Give her a reason to put on a dress & heels or a reason to wear lingerie. Don’t stop impressing her because you got her already.

If you are not getting what you are used to, move on. Don’t settle because you think you love them or because you’re comfortable. The right person that wants to do everything to keep you IS coming… God gives us who we need when he knows we’re ready. So if you haven’t found your person yet, maybe you’re not ready . Self reflect, love on yourself until then… & most importantly, stop looking. Let them find you.

So the next time you have to ask yourself:

”Am I asking for too much?” YOU’RE NOT!

Maybe you’re asking the wrong person.

No standards are TOO high in my book. I deserve, therefore I’ll receive. You will too.