Empty Cup...

Happy Saturday everyone <3

I know I said my next post would be a continuance of my last ... I know some of you all are a bit intrigued with my love life lol. I don't blame you.

But, in today's post, I want to shed some light and acknowledgement on all my blog besties that are suffering from an empty cup. It truly takes one to know one.

I feel like I've always been the type of person who just didn't know when to say no. In some circumstances, I still am. It's a blessing and a curse. I used to be such a people pleaser, until the people I so desperately wanted to please showed me so many reasons as to why it was never worth it. I'd like to think I'm more selfish now... which is also a blessing and a curse.

People will drain you until you have nothing left and not think twice about it. As I get older, I look for more reciprocation out of my friendships and relationships. It helps me understand whose for me and who takes away from me. It took me a while to get to that point but I'm so grateful for the journey leading up to it. I'm not sure where I'd be mentally without it.

I find myself analyzing others more than usual.. "why doesn't this person do this for me?", "Is this person taking energy away from me?", "Why doesn't this person consider me as much as I consider them?"

Ask yourself questions when dealing with someone. If doing things for them feels more like a chore than it does a gesture.. it may be time to reevaluate the relationship you have with that person. Open your third eye when it comes to opening your life up for a person. Create and set boundaries. Let them know, "hey, I love you, however I don't feel you appreciate me as much as you should."

I swear it feels like every year that I age, another level of my mental opens up. If you have to over explain yourself to someone when trying to discuss boundaries and reciprocation that lets you know that person is not there yet mentally to understand you.

All in all, don't ever drain yourself for someone else's comfort or happiness. It's okay to say no sometimes & when you do say no.. if an argument occurs, thats another red flag. Take mental note, and discuss your emotions accordingly.

Sometimes.... & most times.. love is not enough.

Until the next post .. <3