Clingy or Not?!

If you are "clingy" in relationships, stick around. However, if you're someone who likes their personal space like I do... lets get into it!

I really used to be one of those girls who consistently felt the need to be in their significant others skin 24/7. I didn't want to be in a room with anyone but that person. I didn't want to go out with my friends because I'd rather be with my partner. If my partner went out, I would wait until they got home because I didn't believe in going "outside" if I couldn't do it with my partner as well. If my partner couldn't go, baby I was NOT going! Period!

It's safe to say, I'm absolutely NOT that type of woman anymore. Clinginess makes my skin crawl. I do not like someone to feel needy for my presence. I think that is one of the most annoying things you could ever possibly have to deal with in a partner. That is called being co-dependent on someone else in order for you to actually want to have fun. Full disclaimer: IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO WANT TO BE AROUND YOUR PARTNER! I'm not saying that it's not. However, it's not healthy to lose your individuality for the sake of being in someone else's presence.

Let me elaborate:

Losing your individuality- To stop doing WHAT you love for WHO you love.

Ladies! Fellas too! Do NOT stop being who you are all because you fell in love. THEY FELL IN LOVE WITH YOU FOR WHO YOU WERE! Once you turn co-dependent on their presence things will slowly start to change because your partner will feel obligated to be around you consistently. Loving someone should not feel like a 9 to 5, remember that.

I used to be in a relationship where I could not move without my significant other, didn't want to. & what made it even worse, is she felt the same way toward me. It was unhealthy for us both because we got "boring!" . We only hung with each other, stopped going out with our friends, and lost complete touch with our social life. We lost ourselves in one another and that became toxic in the end. Everything was a feud because we were around each other too much.

I'm speaking from personal experience. Be who you are and never lose touch with yourself. Love yourself with no limitations or co-dependency. It will be more than easy for someone else to love you for that reason alone. Make individuality a priority in your relationship if you haven't already. It is OKAY to go out with your friends separately from your partner & it is okay to have a day to yourself.

I'm in absolute no shape or form a relationship guru. However, I do know that NO relationship is worth losing yourself over.

Just a little food for thought!